My Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple ⋆ Moments To

On day 1 of Theoretical Celebrant Business School, it is expected that I “Visualise My Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple.” And my mind made a tiny squeaky sound before wishing me good luck and scarpering.

However, after working with various Celebrant Wedding and Vow Renewal Couples, I noticed trends in the people who chose to work with me, and the ones that were the most fun.

Celebrant, left of picture, conducting wedding ceremony with bride and groom right of picture.

Above are some of my Ideal Wedding Couples

Yes, there are general ideas like those Celebrant Wedding Couples who reply to emails and send information and feedback promptly – they are ace. But those types of clients are best for everyone when planning an event.

I wanted to visualise my Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple, so here we go. Is this you?

Daft

My Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple is a bit daft because I like daft. I like the sneakiness of it, how it creeps up on you, and the laughter that ensues.

Black and white photo of a person in a Groucho Marx mask with cigar in hand. — Are part of a daft Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple?

I like how it may make perfect sense at the time, but looking back, what you did made no sense whatsoever.

In the ceremonies I write, the daftness of my couples comes out in sharing the funny tales of their coupledom. The way they are willing to talk about the dates that didn’t go to plan or were just plain odd, and these are often the dates that their relationship is built on.

You know, the dates where one person said they knew a club you could go to, but you spent an hour walking the town in freezing weather comparing notes on bad internet dates.

Or the way one of you decided that the best way to show your partner how you felt that this was the best relationship ever was to break up with them because this was all too good and couldn’t be real. (PS It was real. They married and had a fab child and a ten-year anniversary Vow Renewal.)

And sharing the daft only happens because the couple and I trust each other.

This leads to my Ideal Celebrant wedding Couple having a more intimate and authentic ceremony where everyone gets to feel the love, see the commitment, and generally have an utterly fantastic wedding day with many giggles.

Been Together a While

My Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couples have been “Together 4EVA.”

A triangular crack in concrete where someone has stenciled in black capital letters "I love you always" followed by a black heart. — Are you part of a long-term Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple?

They’ve been together for a long time (Pandemic Time counts as at least double normal time), and they know each other well. REEEEEEEALLY well.

They have a lovely, easy energy about them, making sitting down together and hearing their stories feel like listening to old friends.

There’s an openness to new ideas and suggestions regarding what can be done in the wedding ceremony and a good understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes.

Relaxed

My Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple is relaxed.

They have a good idea about what they want and how they will achieve it. No sense of panic, lack of control, or fear of running out of time exists. They are just chilled out and happy to go with the flow.

An Asian couple sat on the doorstep drinking tea.. He is on the left as you look at the image. He is wearing a Sikh turban, he has a dark brown/black beard, is smiling, wearing a white shirt with turned up sleeves and dark jeans, and holding a cup in his right hand. She has long dark hair and is leaning on his left shoulder smiling at the camera. She is wearing a red and white dress. — Are you part of a relaxed, Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple?

This probably stems from the longevity of their relationship. They know they are in this (or have been in this for the Vow Renewal Peeps) for the long haul. A wedding or renewal is there to enhance their coupledom and not become the be-all and end-all.

That’s not to say they are pushovers or indecisive. Very much not. They still have high standards and expectations of how their day will be, but they understand that sometimes the path towards a wondrous wedding day is a little bit wiggly. And sometimes, the wiggles bring delightful surprises and opportunities that make the whole planning journey more fun.

Quirky

By quirky, I mean people who are happy to share their little foibles.

A comic strip of two panels one above the other. In the first one a small black rat tells a coiled pale green snake, "love isn't something you say, it's something you do." The second panel, the snake has shaped itself into the word love and asks, "you mean like this?! — Are you part of an Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple who may have smiled at this?

So for some, it’s bow ties because we know they are cool; for others, it’s donning a costume and geeking out for a weekend; for others, it’s an airing cupboard that looks like the front of the TARDIS.

I enjoy discovering people’s quirks and interests, especially when we can incorporate them into their ceremony.

You like rock climbing and heavy metal – let’s create a ceremony with your favourite song lyrics intertwined into your love story while we hang from a belay rope and your guests watch from below or from other ropes beside us.

You love MMA. I know a man with his own MMA ring. Why don’t you both enter the ring like pro-fighters with entourage and song while your guests cheer like a crowd on fight night?

Passionate about model trains. Have your wedding rings delivered by a tiny train that winds its way up the aisle toot-tooting its arrival.

Seriously, embrace your odd.

A little bit sci-fi-Hogwarts-sparkly*

I like my sci-fi and horror, and fantasy genres. I am not a memoriser of books or episode scripts, but I enjoy the worlds and the conundrums they create.

And I get very excited when my Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple appears and asks for such ideas to be incorporated into their ceremony.

Two characters from the series Red Dwarf. On the left Camille as an android like Kryten who stands on the right. They have pale angular rubber heads and dark metallic black angular bodies.

A rectangle split horizontally three times. The first two rows show 4 pictures each and the bottom row shows four men and one woman. They are images of the Doctor Who characters.

Are you part of a sci-fi-Hogwarts-sparkly Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple?

How utterly delightful it is to find quotes from Doctor Who, Buffy, Jane Austen, Harry Potter, Disney, Star Wars, The MCU, and all the story worlds just to be able to weave them into your wedding ceremony, vows, or both!

One of my most recent ceremonies was for a couple who loved Red Dwarf and Doctor Who, and it was an absolute fricking joy to wander the net in search of the perfect words.

Who doesn’t want to hear, “Has anyone ever told you that the configuration and juxtaposition of your features is extraordinarily apposite?… The way the light catches the angles in your head: it’s enchanting!”

And I love seeing the sparkly joy in your partner’s eyes when you keep your vows secret, and they recognise where they’ve heard that line or phrase.

It’s as if they have been allowed entry into an exclusive club. It’s just brilliant.

_{*FYI, Sparkly does not include Twilight Vampires. Where I am from, vampires don’t sparkle – they bite and occasionally fall in love with slayers.}

Are you my Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple?

Do any of these ideas resonate with you and your partner?

Fancy showing off your relaxed yet inspiringly odd ways to friends and family in a totally bespoke ceremony?

Then, come to me, my daft, long-term, relaxed, quirksome, sci-fi sparkly Hogwartian peeps, and let me write you a wondrously personal wedding ceremony that celebrates not only your love but the inspiring parts of you that make you YOU.

I can also tell you all about my TARDIS cupboard.

Until then, live long and prosper,

Sarah x

My Ideal Celebrant Wedding Couple